Happier
Posted on July 11, 2010 with 0 commentsHow happy are you?
We all say we are. Right? I mean, if someone asks if you're happy, it's a rhetorical question.
I just got back to lovely NYC after a weekend of reflection, awesomeness, and love. I always picture my life as those 3 things, but I realize that sometimes I don't give myself enough freedom to take those things and turn them into happy. I turn those things into making others happy, or worrying about others happiness, but not my own.
On the ride home, I thought about so much, all good. I'm so blessed in my life, and we all are, really. Things that don't make you happy... why do you do them? I have plenty of those less than desirable things in life, and for what? Sometimes they are part of reaching a goal and therefore are actually good. Turn those moments into gratefulness for the end result and they WILL make you happy.
Things that don't lead to goals that YOU want for YOU? Figure out why you do them. Is it someone else's goal? Is it what society expects of you? Is it someone else's dream, something that others want you to achieve for their own vicarious reasons?
Life is never everything we want. Wouldn't that be boring? If someone told you that you didn't have to work again a day in your life and you could have anything and everything you wanted, would you be happy? I wouldn't. How sweet are those "things" when you work toward them? How fulfilled are you when you aren't handed something you want, when you work for it??? It's AWESOME.
But sometimes we work toward something we don't want, something that doesn't make us happy, something that others want or think equates happiness. Sometimes we work and don't know what our goal is. We just do.
Life is a gift, learn to love yourself and what makes you happy. People will judge other people primarily because they don't know what they want themselves. Don't be angry at them, don't waste your time - it won't make you any happier and it won't help you work toward that goal! Don't know what your goals are? Be honest. It's not all about material things. It's not all about what society thinks is success or happiness. And you get to name your own goal and find ways to work your way there. How awesome is THAT???
xo,
NP